Category Archives: SEX & RELATIONSHIPS

Why Never To Date Married Men

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Why Never To Date Married Men

Dating married men has become a trend that most of our college ladies use in order to get the basic needs they cannot afford to get by themselves. This is degrading to society and it is the reason why many marriages are not working out right now. EZM thought it could be wise to educate the ladies on why they shouldn’t date married men in order to help them see with reason and not engage in such.

 
-Just like he started cheating on his wife after seeing you, he will do the same to you immediately he sees a new face fresher than you. The reason he cheats on his wife is because he wants some fresh experience and so what makes you special? Try to complain about it and he will dump you right there without second thoughts and think of how embarrassing it can be when he tells you to stop complaining because you are not his wife, Ouch!

 
-Most ladies have the wrong misconception that all married men are rich, just because your friend is dating a rich married man doesn’t guarantee you the same.Entering an adulterous affair with aim of gaining is wrong because you will end up more depressed that you were before, he will just use you and dump you. Some of these men cannot even provide for their own families, how sure can you be that he will provide for you. They may pretend to be rich at first but after seeing your nakedness, they will just walk away without giving you anything. If You try to ask they will ask  you if you are a prostitute to ask for money each time they have sex with you.

 
-Unwanted luggage’s also come hand in hand with married men, not only are there diseases that are deadly, but also think about the implications of unwanted pregnancies.Why should you bring on earth a child you did not legitimately get, you will torture the innocent child’s mind and you will not even manage to fend for both you and the baby. People in society will look down on you and the one who impregnated you. A female mostly suffers for such acts, and not only this, imagine you are in class and someone comes to pull you hair out because you are dating her husband. It really destroys your image.

 
-Dating a married man means you are breaking a home, his marital home. Think about the woman that cries each day and night for her husband to just look at her for once.Every night she cannot sleep because she is waiting for her husband to get home safely when all the time his with you. You will even create hatred in his children’s hearts because no child wants to see his mother suffering. It’s good to realize that you are a woman and one day you will get married, what if your husband starts doing the same to you?  Life gives you back exactly what you throw at it and so just think of how you would feel in that situation.

 
-If you are ever dating married men and go to all sorts of places with them then chances are high that you will lose out on your right suitors. It may look as though guys at your level don’t notice such but word spreads like bush fire and so you cannot cover up. Immediately they know this, they will lose interest in you and will give you cold shoulders. They consider you used material and since no man wants a used product, you will probably end up alone and depressed with time. You may have all the attention at some point but time flies and you might even failing to choose who you want and go for big-buyers but when you finally get tired of playing, no man you would want will be there to love you.

-As long as the person you are dating has a wife, you will always be a second option for him instead of being someone else’s  first option. You will always be the girl he calls when his wife refuses to give him some. No matter how hard you try, you can never be his number one because the first cut is the deepest.

 

By: Memory “CandyLuv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX AND LOVE MAKING

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DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX AND LOVE MAKING

Love-making is defined as the copulation of two individuals normally a man and a woman to express their strong emotions towards each other, in such cases the two are willing to endure the pleasures and pain brought by sexual intercourse, Sex on the other hand  is having sexual intercourse just for mare  pleasure. Most people don’t know the difference between sex and love-making and so to help you realize the difference between such, EZM magazine has decided to help you recognize them by listing them down.

·        You can only make love to one person no matter how many people you have sex with,no matter how many times you mess around with different people, there is always that special person that moves you sexually and makes you feel fulfilled sexual wise. This person gives you good thoughts whenever you think of the things you do together and it makes you want to do it over and over again with them, they are more like a sexual appetizer.

 

·        Sex does not necessarily mean you are in love with someone, it can just be to ease yourself, please someone, or serve as a trade where you agree to be friends with benefits.

 

·        Love-making requires the two individuals involved to fully give in with all their emotions without holding back and don’t feel restricted to trying out what they want. If you make love to someone, you won’t feel embarrassed of what your partner would feel because you can trust them with your body. Love-making requires special timing and a comfortable place like a bedroom in order to cater both individual needs.

 

·        Sex can be done anywhere regardless of place or time, it can be in cars, bushes,toilets and so on, it is also mostly done within a short phrase of time.

 

·        Love–making takes great interest in knowing whether your partner is enjoying or comfortable and it is mostly done with special care not to hate the other, sex on the other hand  does not take time to study what the other person is feeling or to analyze the mood of the person.It is mostly done to satisfy the initiator and mostly selfish in that it is sometimes one sided.

 

·        Love-making ignites special and sweet memories of the person even when you are not together, you will have a strong attraction to the other person because they mean so much to you and this teaches you to appreciate and value your partner.

 

·        Sex does have to bring about good memories and you can do it with anyone at any place. It can just be done because you are bored, stressed, form of exercise or just to learn more about your sexuality and how far you can go sexual wise.

 

·        Most sexual relationships end up miserable for the people involved unless if it was just a contract or form of trade. Otherwise most people who have sexual encounters in the name of a fling end up in tragic situations in that one of the two falls in love with the other or starts to feel more than just a fling and hence jealousy and insecurity starts to creep up. Love making draws people close and connects them emotionally as some kind of attachment.

So-which one are you having, pleasure or commitment?

By: Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

 

THEKIND OF WOMAN MEN WANT

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THEKIND OF WOMAN MEN WANT

 

THE KIND OF WOMAN MEN WANT

Ø  A tidy woman – men love women who are naturally clean. Some clean hair, nails, toes, teeth and body would really make a man fall for you. To top up to that be a superwoman,try to observe the type of women your man fantasies about and be better than them,dress like a superstar if he envies superstars but learn to differentiate between looking extremely good and trashy. Don’t overdo it, too much of things like make-up spoil your look. There’s nothing a man would admire than a fine good looking lady.

 

Ø  A smart woman-every man wants a woman who has some brains up there. No man would want a woman he cannot share some kind of intelligent conversation with. you don’t have to be at his level of intelligence but you have to be smart enough to contribute positively to his life. Try to connect with his thinking or even better than him, but don’t be bossy as it turns men off.

 

Ø  An Understanding woman-men want a woman who can understand them even when they don’t understand themselves. They want a woman who can be there for them when good times and bad times come, not a seasonal doll that just appears in good times. They want someone they can cry to without being embarrassed.be that woman, or try to be.

 

Ø  A hard working woman-men want you to be independent and not a dependent. They want you to be able to stand on your feet even without them just to assure them you are a strong person that can stand on her  feet. No man wants a woman who is in need of every little thing in life, someone that completely depends on him. He wants a woman that can help him with the bill sand other finances as well.

 

Ø  A woman that is not clingy-no man wants a jealous, clingy and desperate woman. Men want a self-confident woman who can give them some space to do whatever they want without being nosy.A woman that is too suspicious drives men away. Sometimes it’s good to just be there and watch him play, when he realizes his mistakes he will come around.Don’t go through his phone, pockets bedroom just to find faults because you will and you will just end up hurt. Be that special woman

 

By: Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

HOW TO GET OVER A HEARTBREAK

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HOW TO GET OVER A HEARTBREAK

 

 

 

So there you go again, thinking you have found you true love then suddenly, BOOM! Mr.Right turns sour. Yeah talking of heartbreaks, it hurts and most of us havebeen there. Never trade your happiness for anyone. Make sure you know what isthere for you and what you believe in. never beg for someone that doesn’t love you but just wants to use you. Whenever you have a breakup, learn to be happy,this means that you are one step ahead to meeting your perfect match. Well he doesn’t have to be perfect but at least he is worth you and your time. Here aresome steps to help you get over heartbreak.

 

 Concentrate on their bad side – the more you concentrate on someone’s bad side makes youeven wonder why you stayed with them in the first place. It helps you think about how tolerant you are and somehow you will notice that you were being abused in the relationship. It somehow makes you hurt yourself for not dumping them earlier. It enlightens you about what type of relationship and partner you want in your next affair and it makes you stand better chances in relationships later. Think of all the bad things like their annoying snoring, forgetting your birthday, bad sexual habits. Once you think of such, trust me you will never want to get back to them.

 

 Flirt with someone you like – yeah it’s crazy, though it seems crazy, it does work.Immediately you start flirting with someone, a quarter of your time is occupied thereby reducing your time of thinking about them. The more you chat and text your flirtment, the more you realize you are over your ungrateful ex. The key is to do all that makes you happy and comfortable. Flirting helps you discover a side of yourself you never knew.

 

Occupy your mind with positive thoughts – if there is something that you couldn’t do because of your ex, then this is the time to do it. If it’s watching movies,make sure you watch all you can. Make sure you go for it, baking, shopping, swimming,and hunging out. Don’t entertain negative thoughts, tell yourself positive things and hung around people who give you a positive atmosphere. This can be agood time to explore your talents and work on your talents.

 

 Talk about it with someone- though at this phrase you will prefer keeping to yourself,it’s always best to talk to someone you trust about what you are going throughand what you think.

 

Remembernot to let your state get the best out of you, you still have a long way ahead.

 

By: Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

GUIDELINES TO HAVING THE BEST SEX EVER!!

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GUIDELINES TO HAVING THE BEST SEX EVER!!

Communication- in every relationship, people should learn how to communicate. You should inform your spouse how you want to be treated during sex. Tell them how you want them to touch you, kiss you and cuddle. Communication is good syrup for enjoyable sex because you both know what to do with each other. You have to learn to be open and talk with your partner about what places they should concentrate on to turn you on, or lead them to those areas during sex. Once you communicate as civilized adults then you are bound to have the sex of your life.

 

Fantasize– you are free to try your craziest fantasies if you want to enjoy your love affair. Just imagine you are in a movie though in this movie you are the star. Let loose, don’t hold back. Let your wild side loose by enjoying what you are doing and giving in as much as you want. If you hold back, you won’t enjoy your sexual urge and you will findit boring thereby making it kind of inconveniencing for your partner. Don’t beashamed as if you were doing something wrong unless of course you are.

 

Don’t take sex as a job– instead of looking atsex as a duty you must fulfill, look at it as a passion or hobby you enjoydoing and it relaxes you a lot. Look at it as an adventure to discovering yourdifferent sexual or body movements. Don’t just do it to impress the otherperson, do it because you want to, you love it, you desire it. Make sure youdon’t feel forced to do it or else you would be a sex slave. Sex is meant to beenjoyed by doing it with the right person at the right time.

 

Find a suitable time– make sure you find the right time for sex.  You consider a time when you and your partner are both relaxed really want to have sex. Sex is best enjoyed when both you and your partner are comfortable like for instance early in the morning before anything disturbs you and your minds are still fresh.Sometimes couples don’t enjoy sex because one might be tired, stressed,fatigued or just not in the mood. So finding and agreeing on a convenient time for both of you to enjoy your sexual affair.

 

Take caution– the best sex ever is when you don’t expose yourselves to danger in the name of pleasure. Though some sexual methods look enticing, don’t go to extremes just to get the pleasure you want.There only two people that can make each other come and it’s you and your partner,don’t add things sharp objects, adult toys as these things will destroy your delicate  parts and you might end updisabled or in fatal conditions. You should also keep the camera away during your sexual encounters because you don’t want to end up the next topic right? The last is always use protection to avoid unwanted pregnancies or STDs.

 

By Memory “Candy Luv” Sankalimba

Email: memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

Women's Love + Sex Rights

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Women's Love + Sex Rights

Women’s Love + Sex Rights.

 

You know about your rights as a woman, in the workplace and according to the law. But what about your rights in romance? If there is something you are not happy about in your relationship talk to your partner about it, for instance if you dont like the way they kiss you demonstrate to them, show them how you love to be kissed.  It is every woman’s right to be satisfied in all parts of a relationship.

EZM brings to you part 1 of the other “nine things” you deserve – in bed and out. Know them, claim them and be happier in love!

1 YOUR RIGHT TO GREAT SEX: Many women settle for mediocre sex even those who demand the best in every other part of their lives. You don’t need multiple orgasms, but sex should be fun and intimate more than not. You deserve it!

2 YOUR RIGHT TO ROMANCE: A number of women love to have our hands held; (I am one of them) some women love to receive love notes every now and then. And most of us crave for massages after a hectic day. Receiving at least some of these things is your right- but you may have to ask. For men, the most intimate gesture is sex, but for women, romantic things strike a chord. But unless you say it’s important, it probably won’t cross his mind. You deserve some chivalry, letting him carry your bag doesn’t set you back. It means you like being cared for.

3 YOUR RIGHT TO GET WHAT YOU GIVE IN BED: Men never have trouble requesting oral sex, why then should you find it difficult? A loving man will want to know what turns you on- and welcome any new tricks to his repertoire. So ask already! But do it kindly, sounding frustrated or angry will make the guy shrink- literally and figuratively.

4 YOUR RIGHT TO DO IT ON THE FIRST DATE OR THE 15TH OR THE 100TH: Who says you’re ready by the third date? Some men wonder why they are not getting any after several dates. So explain! Maybe you’ve rushed things before and been hurt. Maybe you’re a born again virgin. Maybe you’re just not that into him. All good things for him to know. And for you to acknowledge.

5.YOUR RIGHT TO BE YOURSELF DURING SEX: You should never feel like you’re bowing to your man’s fantasies. That goes for anything:role play, anal sex etc. It’s better to tell him your limits when you first start hooking up. Waiting until he tries it and then saying no is frustrating. Be direct, tell him your wants. You hold all the power sexually. Own that power, assert yourself and men will almost always be OK with it.

TO BE CONTINUED.

By: Memory Kalima 

Letting Go Of A Bad Relationship

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Letting Go Of A Bad Relationship

LETTING GO

 

 

Some Relationships can be draining and stressful but we still choose to stick around hoping our better half will eventually change,but they never do. A friend of mine once told me that “no man is worth the trouble, not even a boyfriend maybe a husband” I totally agree with her, most times we lose ourselves in relationships which are not even deserving as a result we forget our self-worth. But why do we still hung on? Why do we stick around in relationships which we know has no future?

 

No matter how bad our partners treat us we still hold on, some people have been in abusive relationships and many of us hung on to cheating partners hoping that one day things will be ok, which is never the case. What are we to do when all the efforts we put in a Relationship go unappreciated?? Leave just like that? Yes most of you are probably saying,”you gotta pack your bags and leave” I conquer with you, but it’s never easy. It’s really hard to say goodbye, but we gotta do it no matter how hard it might be, theirs someone out there for everything STOP wasting your time on a person whose not worth it,we all deserve only the best.

 

If your partner is’nt treating you right, why stick around? Never compromise your well-being for anyone. Some people stay in abusive relationships because they are scared of being single and alone, OR because they think they’ll be a laughing stock amongst their friends. Honestly would you rather stay in a relationship which eats you up spiritually,physically and emotionally? Or be single and happy? Remember God’s time is the best, be patient that special man/woman will soon make his/her way to you.

By:Memory Kalima