When a man is no longer into you and looking for the perfect opportunity to dump you, they use the quickest excuse they can find to dump you. So ladies beware. Here are some outlined steps to help you see when your relationship is about to break.
• When he makes a big deal over the smallest mistakes you make – here he may make what you see as a small problem turn into a mountain, even though one gets emotional over what you have done, this does not give him the right to start reminding you of your past mistakes. A record keeper is a very bad guy to hung with, so ladies do yourselves a favor by packing your bags before he throws you out by air because leaving on your own saves your some embarrassment.
• When he can no longer defend you – when a guy can no longer defend you from his friends and family, he isn’t worth you. If back then he never allowed not even his mother to say a mean word about you, and all of a sudden he starts adding spice to the her mean words then he has lost interest in you, start working on finding your perfect man because it isn’t him. A man that loves you will defend and protect you even when he knows you are wrong. Don’t stick around a guy that allows his friends to call you a whore in his presence. You are way to special for that.
• When it becomes all about sex – honestly ladies, why? Why would you always want to be a sexual vessel for a selfish man? You cannot even solve your problems because he only wants sex when his with you. His too busy to solve problems but isn’t too busy to get on top of you. Such a man only wants to use you, so it’s up to you to tell me that if he cannot treat you right, then no sex for him. What baffles me is that some women stay up to three years without settling their marital problems but still have children with their spouses. Women stand up for your rights, be examples to the new generation and other women.
• He disrespects you in your presence– men have been known to cheat and flirt past time and again, but they always hide their flirting and cheating carefully from their beloved wives and girlfriends, reason is they know that when their madam finds out, hell will break loose. If a man starts showing you that he can see and flirt with other women in your presence then sense danger, dump him before he dumps you. If you stay on ,you have a greater surprise coming your way if you think you can change him, probably he will even start bragging to his friends of how he can play you and you still stick with him.
• When he cares more about his ex than you – are you kidding me? Why must your man compare you to his ex. Likely it’s true that a guy will ill-talk his ex, what he hated about her and what wrongs she did. Then as if a tornado hit his brain and he caught amnesia, he starts comparing you to her, he tells you of how sweet and humble she was and, how you can be her. Girlfriend if he starts with this ex bull, simply look at your list of suitors and say NEXT!
• When he cannot understand you – naturally guys say they can never understand a woman but stick with us, but when a relationship reaches a point of non-agreement, then it’s not worth being in. Picture this, you are telling your man your landlord kicked and he can say is, baby can you send me some airtime, WTF! Ladies really? A man that still loves you will help you solve your solutions and not add to them. Think hard!
• When he wants all the attention – some guys are funny, instead of giving their women attention, they want it for themselves. Imagine you are left to dance alone in the club because your man is getting an audience from the live band playing outside because of his dance moves. At first he was there for you, holding hands in public, even getting jealous over a fly that buzzes in your face, he would make all your phones are off just to enjoy your private time together. But suddenly he cannot switch his phone because he claims to be getting business calls every minute, whenever he sees a friend he stops to greet them and catch up without minding how long you wait and doesn’t even apologies for it.
• When he starts seeing you as a relative – have you ever imagined what it would be if we saw our man/women as relatives? Well we wouldn’t be attracted to them because it would seem so wrong. When you man no longer enjoys a good romantic time with you, just know that your time is running short in his life. Sometimes a guy may use phrases like i see and love you as a sister to tell you that you are no longer good enough to be their lover. He can no longer kiss or cuddle you because he sees you as his blood relation. When this begins to happen, don’t despair, just thank God you got out of it before it was too late.
• When he cannot acknowledge you anymore – imagine you meet your mans ex for the first time and he says, hey Nella! How are you? Bertha meet Nella my ex, Nella this is Bertha. Do you find any sense in that? Why on earth can’t he acknowledge who you are to him to his ex? A guy still in love with you will always introduce as his girlfriend to everyone just like he used to introduce you to his friends, cousins and colleagues the first months or years of your relationship. If this happens to you and you think it’s normal, then you are not normal. My last point is very common, it’s always there and sometimes most of us women overlook it thinking it’s the best to solve your issues when it’s in fact not.
• When you are always the one trying to make it work – why is it that now you are the first to make that move, you have to be the first one to call, text, apologies even when he is wrong, communicate your sexual needs, and remind him of your anniversary or birthday. What happened to that sweet man that would surprise you with good morning and happy birthday messages, where has he gone to, the man used to get turned on just from seeing your pretty face, what really happened to that man? Why should you tolerate a man that will treat you like trash after sleeping with you and even reaches a point of beating you up, as if that isn’t enough you even apologies for him beating you believing you deserved it. Baby girl pick up the remaining pieces of your heart and put them together, walk away from this monster. You are to special for such a man. It will hurt because you love him but after a while, you will even be stronger than before. Enjoy being a woman, don’t tolerate people that don’t tolerate you.
Hope this article helps you in some way
By Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba