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DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX AND LOVE MAKING

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DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX AND LOVE MAKING

Love-making is defined as the copulation of two individuals normally a man and a woman to express their strong emotions towards each other, in such cases the two are willing to endure the pleasures and pain brought by sexual intercourse, Sex on the other hand  is having sexual intercourse just for mare  pleasure. Most people don’t know the difference between sex and love-making and so to help you realize the difference between such, EZM magazine has decided to help you recognize them by listing them down.

·        You can only make love to one person no matter how many people you have sex with,no matter how many times you mess around with different people, there is always that special person that moves you sexually and makes you feel fulfilled sexual wise. This person gives you good thoughts whenever you think of the things you do together and it makes you want to do it over and over again with them, they are more like a sexual appetizer.

 

·        Sex does not necessarily mean you are in love with someone, it can just be to ease yourself, please someone, or serve as a trade where you agree to be friends with benefits.

 

·        Love-making requires the two individuals involved to fully give in with all their emotions without holding back and don’t feel restricted to trying out what they want. If you make love to someone, you won’t feel embarrassed of what your partner would feel because you can trust them with your body. Love-making requires special timing and a comfortable place like a bedroom in order to cater both individual needs.

 

·        Sex can be done anywhere regardless of place or time, it can be in cars, bushes,toilets and so on, it is also mostly done within a short phrase of time.

 

·        Love–making takes great interest in knowing whether your partner is enjoying or comfortable and it is mostly done with special care not to hate the other, sex on the other hand  does not take time to study what the other person is feeling or to analyze the mood of the person.It is mostly done to satisfy the initiator and mostly selfish in that it is sometimes one sided.

 

·        Love-making ignites special and sweet memories of the person even when you are not together, you will have a strong attraction to the other person because they mean so much to you and this teaches you to appreciate and value your partner.

 

·        Sex does have to bring about good memories and you can do it with anyone at any place. It can just be done because you are bored, stressed, form of exercise or just to learn more about your sexuality and how far you can go sexual wise.

 

·        Most sexual relationships end up miserable for the people involved unless if it was just a contract or form of trade. Otherwise most people who have sexual encounters in the name of a fling end up in tragic situations in that one of the two falls in love with the other or starts to feel more than just a fling and hence jealousy and insecurity starts to creep up. Love making draws people close and connects them emotionally as some kind of attachment.

So-which one are you having, pleasure or commitment?

By: Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

 

THEKIND OF WOMAN MEN WANT

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THEKIND OF WOMAN MEN WANT

 

THE KIND OF WOMAN MEN WANT

Ø  A tidy woman – men love women who are naturally clean. Some clean hair, nails, toes, teeth and body would really make a man fall for you. To top up to that be a superwoman,try to observe the type of women your man fantasies about and be better than them,dress like a superstar if he envies superstars but learn to differentiate between looking extremely good and trashy. Don’t overdo it, too much of things like make-up spoil your look. There’s nothing a man would admire than a fine good looking lady.

 

Ø  A smart woman-every man wants a woman who has some brains up there. No man would want a woman he cannot share some kind of intelligent conversation with. you don’t have to be at his level of intelligence but you have to be smart enough to contribute positively to his life. Try to connect with his thinking or even better than him, but don’t be bossy as it turns men off.

 

Ø  An Understanding woman-men want a woman who can understand them even when they don’t understand themselves. They want a woman who can be there for them when good times and bad times come, not a seasonal doll that just appears in good times. They want someone they can cry to without being embarrassed.be that woman, or try to be.

 

Ø  A hard working woman-men want you to be independent and not a dependent. They want you to be able to stand on your feet even without them just to assure them you are a strong person that can stand on her  feet. No man wants a woman who is in need of every little thing in life, someone that completely depends on him. He wants a woman that can help him with the bill sand other finances as well.

 

Ø  A woman that is not clingy-no man wants a jealous, clingy and desperate woman. Men want a self-confident woman who can give them some space to do whatever they want without being nosy.A woman that is too suspicious drives men away. Sometimes it’s good to just be there and watch him play, when he realizes his mistakes he will come around.Don’t go through his phone, pockets bedroom just to find faults because you will and you will just end up hurt. Be that special woman

 

By: Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

HOW TO GET OVER A HEARTBREAK

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HOW TO GET OVER A HEARTBREAK

 

 

 

So there you go again, thinking you have found you true love then suddenly, BOOM! Mr.Right turns sour. Yeah talking of heartbreaks, it hurts and most of us havebeen there. Never trade your happiness for anyone. Make sure you know what isthere for you and what you believe in. never beg for someone that doesn’t love you but just wants to use you. Whenever you have a breakup, learn to be happy,this means that you are one step ahead to meeting your perfect match. Well he doesn’t have to be perfect but at least he is worth you and your time. Here aresome steps to help you get over heartbreak.

 

 Concentrate on their bad side – the more you concentrate on someone’s bad side makes youeven wonder why you stayed with them in the first place. It helps you think about how tolerant you are and somehow you will notice that you were being abused in the relationship. It somehow makes you hurt yourself for not dumping them earlier. It enlightens you about what type of relationship and partner you want in your next affair and it makes you stand better chances in relationships later. Think of all the bad things like their annoying snoring, forgetting your birthday, bad sexual habits. Once you think of such, trust me you will never want to get back to them.

 

 Flirt with someone you like – yeah it’s crazy, though it seems crazy, it does work.Immediately you start flirting with someone, a quarter of your time is occupied thereby reducing your time of thinking about them. The more you chat and text your flirtment, the more you realize you are over your ungrateful ex. The key is to do all that makes you happy and comfortable. Flirting helps you discover a side of yourself you never knew.

 

Occupy your mind with positive thoughts – if there is something that you couldn’t do because of your ex, then this is the time to do it. If it’s watching movies,make sure you watch all you can. Make sure you go for it, baking, shopping, swimming,and hunging out. Don’t entertain negative thoughts, tell yourself positive things and hung around people who give you a positive atmosphere. This can be agood time to explore your talents and work on your talents.

 

 Talk about it with someone- though at this phrase you will prefer keeping to yourself,it’s always best to talk to someone you trust about what you are going throughand what you think.

 

Remembernot to let your state get the best out of you, you still have a long way ahead.

 

By: Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

GUIDELINES TO HAVING THE BEST SEX EVER!!

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GUIDELINES TO HAVING THE BEST SEX EVER!!

Communication- in every relationship, people should learn how to communicate. You should inform your spouse how you want to be treated during sex. Tell them how you want them to touch you, kiss you and cuddle. Communication is good syrup for enjoyable sex because you both know what to do with each other. You have to learn to be open and talk with your partner about what places they should concentrate on to turn you on, or lead them to those areas during sex. Once you communicate as civilized adults then you are bound to have the sex of your life.

 

Fantasize– you are free to try your craziest fantasies if you want to enjoy your love affair. Just imagine you are in a movie though in this movie you are the star. Let loose, don’t hold back. Let your wild side loose by enjoying what you are doing and giving in as much as you want. If you hold back, you won’t enjoy your sexual urge and you will findit boring thereby making it kind of inconveniencing for your partner. Don’t beashamed as if you were doing something wrong unless of course you are.

 

Don’t take sex as a job– instead of looking atsex as a duty you must fulfill, look at it as a passion or hobby you enjoydoing and it relaxes you a lot. Look at it as an adventure to discovering yourdifferent sexual or body movements. Don’t just do it to impress the otherperson, do it because you want to, you love it, you desire it. Make sure youdon’t feel forced to do it or else you would be a sex slave. Sex is meant to beenjoyed by doing it with the right person at the right time.

 

Find a suitable time– make sure you find the right time for sex.  You consider a time when you and your partner are both relaxed really want to have sex. Sex is best enjoyed when both you and your partner are comfortable like for instance early in the morning before anything disturbs you and your minds are still fresh.Sometimes couples don’t enjoy sex because one might be tired, stressed,fatigued or just not in the mood. So finding and agreeing on a convenient time for both of you to enjoy your sexual affair.

 

Take caution– the best sex ever is when you don’t expose yourselves to danger in the name of pleasure. Though some sexual methods look enticing, don’t go to extremes just to get the pleasure you want.There only two people that can make each other come and it’s you and your partner,don’t add things sharp objects, adult toys as these things will destroy your delicate  parts and you might end updisabled or in fatal conditions. You should also keep the camera away during your sexual encounters because you don’t want to end up the next topic right? The last is always use protection to avoid unwanted pregnancies or STDs.

 

By Memory “Candy Luv” Sankalimba

Email: memorysankalimba@ezmmagazine.com

Women's Love + Sex Rights

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Women's Love + Sex Rights

Women’s Love + Sex Rights.

 

You know about your rights as a woman, in the workplace and according to the law. But what about your rights in romance? If there is something you are not happy about in your relationship talk to your partner about it, for instance if you dont like the way they kiss you demonstrate to them, show them how you love to be kissed.  It is every woman’s right to be satisfied in all parts of a relationship.

EZM brings to you part 1 of the other “nine things” you deserve – in bed and out. Know them, claim them and be happier in love!

1 YOUR RIGHT TO GREAT SEX: Many women settle for mediocre sex even those who demand the best in every other part of their lives. You don’t need multiple orgasms, but sex should be fun and intimate more than not. You deserve it!

2 YOUR RIGHT TO ROMANCE: A number of women love to have our hands held; (I am one of them) some women love to receive love notes every now and then. And most of us crave for massages after a hectic day. Receiving at least some of these things is your right- but you may have to ask. For men, the most intimate gesture is sex, but for women, romantic things strike a chord. But unless you say it’s important, it probably won’t cross his mind. You deserve some chivalry, letting him carry your bag doesn’t set you back. It means you like being cared for.

3 YOUR RIGHT TO GET WHAT YOU GIVE IN BED: Men never have trouble requesting oral sex, why then should you find it difficult? A loving man will want to know what turns you on- and welcome any new tricks to his repertoire. So ask already! But do it kindly, sounding frustrated or angry will make the guy shrink- literally and figuratively.

4 YOUR RIGHT TO DO IT ON THE FIRST DATE OR THE 15TH OR THE 100TH: Who says you’re ready by the third date? Some men wonder why they are not getting any after several dates. So explain! Maybe you’ve rushed things before and been hurt. Maybe you’re a born again virgin. Maybe you’re just not that into him. All good things for him to know. And for you to acknowledge.

5.YOUR RIGHT TO BE YOURSELF DURING SEX: You should never feel like you’re bowing to your man’s fantasies. That goes for anything:role play, anal sex etc. It’s better to tell him your limits when you first start hooking up. Waiting until he tries it and then saying no is frustrating. Be direct, tell him your wants. You hold all the power sexually. Own that power, assert yourself and men will almost always be OK with it.

TO BE CONTINUED.

By: Memory Kalima 

Letting Go Of A Bad Relationship

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Letting Go Of A Bad Relationship

LETTING GO

 

 

Some Relationships can be draining and stressful but we still choose to stick around hoping our better half will eventually change,but they never do. A friend of mine once told me that “no man is worth the trouble, not even a boyfriend maybe a husband” I totally agree with her, most times we lose ourselves in relationships which are not even deserving as a result we forget our self-worth. But why do we still hung on? Why do we stick around in relationships which we know has no future?

 

No matter how bad our partners treat us we still hold on, some people have been in abusive relationships and many of us hung on to cheating partners hoping that one day things will be ok, which is never the case. What are we to do when all the efforts we put in a Relationship go unappreciated?? Leave just like that? Yes most of you are probably saying,”you gotta pack your bags and leave” I conquer with you, but it’s never easy. It’s really hard to say goodbye, but we gotta do it no matter how hard it might be, theirs someone out there for everything STOP wasting your time on a person whose not worth it,we all deserve only the best.

 

If your partner is’nt treating you right, why stick around? Never compromise your well-being for anyone. Some people stay in abusive relationships because they are scared of being single and alone, OR because they think they’ll be a laughing stock amongst their friends. Honestly would you rather stay in a relationship which eats you up spiritually,physically and emotionally? Or be single and happy? Remember God’s time is the best, be patient that special man/woman will soon make his/her way to you.

By:Memory Kalima

WHAT MEN CRAVE FROM THEIR PARTNERS!

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WHAT MEN CRAVE FROM THEIR PARTNERS!

WHAT MEN CRAVE FROM THEIR PARTNERS!

You’d be surprised to know that it’s not just mind blowing sex that men crave. Men also love.

* Surprise!  A new pair of sneakers, boxers or T-shirt. Dinner at his favourite restaurant or a copy of his favourite DVD will remind him that your relationship can still be full of unpredictable fun.

 

 

* Your Touch: While he’s unblocking the drain, give him a peck on the back of his neck and watch the goose bumps appear. Trust me you’ll be on his mind for the rest of the day.

 

 

* TIME TO SPACE OUT. Vegging-out time rates surprisingly high on guys’ lists of needs. After work, give him time to recharge-  and enjoy your own “me time”, too.

 

 

There you have it ladies, blow your man’s mind by trying out the above tips and be ready to say goodbye to a boring and predictable relationship and HELLO to a fun and happier relationship.

 

By: Memory Kalima

 

 

 

 

 

SIGNS THAT YOUR MAN IS NO LONGER INTO YOU (ITS JUST NOT WORKING ANYMORE)

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SIGNS THAT YOUR MAN IS NO LONGER INTO YOU (ITS JUST NOT WORKING ANYMORE)

When a man is no longer into you and looking for the perfect opportunity to dump you, they use the quickest excuse they can find to dump you. So ladies beware. Here are some outlined steps to help you see when your relationship is about to break.

• When he makes a big deal over the smallest mistakes you make – here he may make what you see as a small problem turn into a mountain, even though one gets emotional over what you have done, this does not give him the right to start reminding you of your past mistakes. A record keeper is a very bad guy to hung with, so ladies do yourselves a favor by packing your bags before he throws you out by air because leaving on your own saves your some embarrassment.

 • When he can no longer defend you – when a guy can no longer defend you from his friends and family, he isn’t worth you. If back then he never allowed not even his mother to say a mean word about you, and all of a sudden he starts adding spice to the her mean words then he has lost interest in you, start working on finding your perfect man because it isn’t him. A man that loves you will defend and protect you even when he knows you are wrong. Don’t stick around a guy that allows his friends to call you a whore in his presence. You are way to special for that.

• When it becomes all about sex – honestly ladies, why? Why would you always want to be a sexual vessel for a selfish man? You cannot even solve your problems because he only wants sex when his with you. His too busy to solve problems but isn’t too busy to get on top of you. Such a man only wants to use you, so it’s up to you to tell me that if he cannot treat you right, then no sex for him. What baffles me is that some women stay up to three years without settling their marital problems but still have children with their spouses. Women stand up for your rights, be examples to the new generation and other women.

• He disrespects you in your presence– men have been known to cheat and flirt past time and again, but they always hide their flirting and cheating carefully from their beloved wives and girlfriends, reason is they know that when their madam finds out, hell will break loose. If a man starts showing you that he can see and flirt with other women in your presence then sense danger, dump him before he dumps you. If you stay on ,you have a greater surprise coming your way if you think you can change him, probably he will even start bragging to his friends of how he can play you and you still stick with him.

 • When he cares more about his ex than you – are you kidding me? Why must your man compare you to his ex. Likely it’s true that a guy will ill-talk his ex, what he hated about her and what wrongs she did. Then as if a tornado hit his brain and he caught amnesia, he starts comparing you to her, he tells you of how sweet and humble she was and, how you can be her. Girlfriend if he starts with this ex bull, simply look at your list of suitors and say NEXT!

When he cannot understand you – naturally guys say they can never understand a woman but stick with us, but when a relationship reaches a point of non-agreement, then it’s not worth being in. Picture this, you are telling your man your landlord kicked and he can say is, baby can you send me some airtime, WTF! Ladies really? A man that still loves you will help you solve your solutions and not add to them. Think hard!

• When he wants all the attention – some guys are funny, instead of giving their women attention, they want it for themselves. Imagine you are left to dance alone in the club because your man is getting an audience from the live band playing outside because of his dance moves. At first he was there for you, holding hands in public, even getting jealous over a fly that buzzes in your face, he would make  all your phones are off just to enjoy your private time together. But suddenly he cannot switch his phone because he claims to be getting business calls every minute, whenever he sees a friend he stops to greet them and catch up without minding how long you wait and doesn’t even apologies for it.

 • When he starts seeing you as a relative – have you ever imagined what it would be if we saw our man/women as relatives? Well we wouldn’t be attracted to them because it would seem so wrong. When you man no longer enjoys a good romantic time with you, just know that your time is running short in his life. Sometimes a guy may use phrases like i see and love you as a sister to tell you that you are no longer good enough to be their lover. He can no longer kiss or cuddle you because he sees you as his blood relation. When this begins to happen, don’t despair, just thank God you got out of it before it was too late.

When he cannot acknowledge you anymore – imagine you meet your mans ex for the first time and he says, hey Nella! How are you? Bertha  meet Nella my ex, Nella this is Bertha. Do you find any sense in that? Why on earth can’t he acknowledge who you are to him to his ex? A guy still in love with you will always introduce as his girlfriend to everyone just like he used to introduce you to his friends, cousins and colleagues the first months or years of your relationship. If this happens to you and you think it’s normal, then you are not normal. My last point is very common, it’s always there and sometimes most of us women overlook it thinking it’s the best to solve your issues when it’s in fact not.

 • When you are always the one trying to make it work – why is it that now you are the first to make that move, you have to be the first one to call, text, apologies even when he is wrong, communicate your sexual needs, and remind him of your anniversary or birthday. What happened to that sweet man that would surprise you with good morning and happy birthday messages, where has he gone to, the man used to get turned on just from seeing your pretty face, what really happened to that man? Why should you tolerate a man that will treat you like trash after sleeping with you and even reaches a point of beating you up, as if that isn’t enough you even apologies for him beating you believing you deserved it. Baby girl pick up the remaining pieces of your heart and put them together, walk away from this monster. You are to special for such a man. It will hurt because you love him but after a while, you will even be stronger than before. Enjoy being a woman, don’t tolerate people that don’t tolerate you.

 

Hope this article helps you in some way

By Memory “Candyluv” Sankalimba

When the pill is not enough ( birth control pills)

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When the pill is not enough ( birth control pills)

            

                   When the pill is not enough ( birth  control pills)

There are times when birth control pills can lose their effect, like when you

(1) You are on antibiotics or penicillin. Take your pill but condom use also, and a week after the regimen.

(2) if you eat something from the health food store that contain St. John’s wort, which normally helps with depression. Research has shown that the pill will disappear quickly from your body and will not be fully protected. Counseling with your doctor!

(3) Do you get sick, because vomiting and diarrhea can flush away your birth control protection, complete with a condom, even the first week that you are healthy. Just to be on the safe side.

Source: Cosmopolitan

The Real Reason Ladies Cheat on Their Men Part 1

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The Real Reason Ladies Cheat on Their Men Part 1

In a modern world like ours, every girl needs some kind of security. It has become a common  trend for our modern ladies to seek comfort in the hands of  other men who are not necessarily their partners. I took it upon myself to find out why girls cheat and these are some of the many reasons they gave me.

• Emotional comfort

It’s  amazing to see the number of ladies cheating because they do not want to end up alone when dumped by their loved ones. Most ladies choose this because they kind of feel some loneliness at times when their partners act up and hence some guy willing to listen and spend time with them isn’t bad. It’s more like a way of saying I can never be alone even if my main man leaves. It’s like having an already available rebound.

• Material gain

though people believe  money or material things don’t count in a relationship, Sorry guys the sad truth is it does count. Most ladies no matter how independent want a man that can meet their needs and cater for them. Though at first it does seem like money doesn’t matter in a relationship, well it does and there is some extent when you will both realize that it is important to at least have some kind of income. How would you  feel to find out  your chick bought you a t-shirt with money she got from Mr. big spender? Ladies cheat to get everything they want but cannot be given to them by their boyfriends, sometimes it’s even to take care of their boyfriends.

Find the perfect guy

 Strange right? Well thought so too, but apparently ladies play guys to see which one is perfect for them and to see who they can truly rely on,one who can love them better and make them feel safe. The truth is ladies just want a man that not meet the definition of Mr. right but at least have one or two qualities on their Mr. right list. Don’t you wonder why some ladies despite having a bunch of boyfriends still end up happy and fulfilled? Well it’s because they looked everywhere and found what they seeked (please note that this is not meant to encourage ladies to cheat).

 Relief

All some ladies ever want in guys they date is someone that makes them escape real life issues like their mothers nagging, sister quarrels or frustatrations from work. So picture that this is what she really wants and you start giving her more headache than she already has, she will just end up cheating on you in order to seek pleasure you cannot give her. Though cheating has no justification sometimes it’s good to be extra careful with what you do to your woman as a guy to help her not fall into the cheating temptation.

 Sexual pleasure

Some ladies are sexually starved by their partners and hence seek sexual fulfillment in other guys willing to satisfy them. These ladies may be tired of being with one man every time and doing the same things over and over again so they try to look for new challenges to their womanhood. They want someone to meet their sexual fantasies and though they may not necessarily  tell you, they expect you to guess and surprise them some day, it really becomes agony when she finds someone that satisfies her sexual demands than her man, so just be careful.

 

By: Candyluv